You’re asked what should be a simple question, “He’s your boyfriend, right?” The response is about as vague as possible. “It’s complicated.” So here comes the next question “But you guys are together, right?” then comes the response again, “Well, It’s Complicated.” Isn’t a relationship question suppose to be one of those “Yes” or “No” type questions?
For all my sense, or lack therof, I am yet to understand what “It’s complicated” is supposed to mean. To make it even more humorous, social networks like Facebook make the provision for “It’s Complicated” in the relationship status field – yet, I do not doubt that they too are confused about what that status means. When did “Single” or “Taken” become the alternative to something so vague? I mean really how complicated can a relationship status be and if the status is so complicated dare I ask about the dynamics of the lucky couple (laughing).
Does “It’s complicated”, in the early stages become more complicated when marriage sets in or do children complicate things further? Does it even get to that stage? Personally if my mate said our status was complicated, I personally would uncomplicate it by ending it.
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“It’s complicated” is itself a complication. It is used when relationship are either emotionally dead or dying.The relationship is husk, a shadow of its old self; it is empty,a ghost of a relationship, but somehow the person or persons find difficulty either admitting that the relationship is over or letting the relationship go.There might be too much at stake to just let it go, so they hang on hoping that something would happen to spark the flame once again.
Frankly, all relationships are complicated. Humans are complicated beings. There is noting not-”complicated” about any relationship.The problem arises when “complicated” means more than just “complicated”. No one who is satisfied with his or her relationship will select the “it’s complicated” option on Face book or any other interactive web page People don’t generally select it’s complicated in new relationships, it’s usually the ones that have lasted a long time; perhaps years.It is also possible that “it’s complicated” is a big lie and the person touting it is just plain old worthless.
‘It’s Complicated’ is just a term used by couples who are not ready to commit to an actual intimate relationship but indulge in various activities in which real intimate couples are suppose to indulge in. Sex is often the activity in question. ‘It’s Complicated’ is a shameful term, often used when the couples don’t want to admit their relationship is based on something as shallow as sexual pleasure. It’s also used when a person is ashamed of their mate for whatever reason. Many people have ‘Friends with benefits’, a friend with whom they engage in a physical relationship with no emotional attachment. Of course they would not want the public to know about that, for fear of being labeled a pimp or whore, so society has adopted the ‘It’s Complicated’ tag to cover all the above situations. People also misuse the term to mean courting, which is not ‘complicated’ in itself because people are supposed to go through the process of getting to know someone before they become an official couple. But we young people see it fit to skip the courting and start indulging in the physical/sexual nature of a relationship prematurely, leading to many many problems in said relationship which causes it to be, quite frankly, ‘complicated’. So yes, a lot of relationships are complicated cuz the young couples choose to go about them the wrong way. They’ve basically committed themselves without fully committing themselves, and that’s always gonna lead to disaster.